Hello Friends,
I hope aap sab achhe honge. Aaj main aapse kuch baatein share karna chahti hoon. Ye mere kuch personal thoughts hain, kuch aisi feelings jo main aksar feel karti hoon. Shayad aap mein se kuch log bhi in feelings se connect kar paayen.
Hamari life mein shaadi ke baad kitna bada change aata hai, ye samajhna bhi mushkil hai aur kisi ko samjhana bhi. Shaadi se pehle humein bachchon ki tarah rakha jaata hai. Hamare nakhre uthaye jaate hain, hamari chhoti-chhoti zarooraton ka khayal rakha jaata hai aur bina kisi wajah ke bhi bahut pyaar milta hai.
Shaadi ke baad bhi pyaar milta hai, bilkul milta hai… lekin kabhi-kabhi us pyaar ka roop badal jaata hai.
Pehle sirf **hamara hona** hi humein pyaar karne ke liye kaafi hota tha. Lekin shaadi ke baad kabhi-kabhi aisa lagta hai ki hamara hona tab zyada important ho jaata hai jab hum kisi ki zaroorat poori kar rahe hon, kisi ka khayal rakh rahe hon, ghar sambhal rahe hon… aur ye sab sirf ek-do din nahi, balki long term tak karte rahein.
Tab shayad humein ek achhi wife, bahu ya partner ke roop mein dekha jaata hai.
Aur kabhi-kabhi mann mein ye bhi thought aata hai—**“Hum to ise bahut pyaar se rakhte hain.”**
Main responsibilities ki importance ko bilkul deny nahi kar rahi. Zimmedariyan life ka part hain aur har relationship mein hoti hain. Lekin kabhi-kabhi in responsibilities ke beech jo **emotional gap** aa jaata hai, woh hurt karta hai.
Shaadi ke baad jab hum apne ghar, yani mayke jaate hain, to sab kuch wahi hota hai… wahi room, wahi log, wahi ghar. Lekin pata nahi kyun, woh pehle wali feeling nahi reh jaati.
Parents bhi shayad ye sochne lagte hain ki **“Do chaar din ke liye aayi hai, phir chali jaayegi.”**
Aur dheere-dheere humein bhi apne hi ghar mein kabhi-kabhi ek mehmaan jaisi feeling aane lagti hai.
Sabse ajeeb baat ye hai ki sasural mein jab hum saare kaam apne haathon se karte hain, har cheez ki responsibility humse judi hoti hai, to kabhi-kabhi wahi jagah apne ghar jaisi lagne lagti hai.
Shayad isliye kyunki wahan hum kisi aur se expect hi nahi karte.
Wahan sabki expectations humse judi hoti hain.
Aur mayke mein, jahan kabhi humse kuch expect nahi kiya jaata tha, jahan sirf hamara hona hi kaafi tha… wahan shaadi ke baad kabhi-kabhi humein lagta hai ki hum ab pehle jaise belong nahi karte.
Ye baat shayad logically samajhna easy nahi hai. Aur shayad main bhi ise utni achhi tarah explain nahi kar pa rahi hoon jitna feel karti hoon.
Kabhi-kabhi main bahut emotional ho jaati hoon ye sab sochkar.
Shayad problem kisi ek insaan ki nahi hai. Shayad ye life ke badalne ka ek aisa phase hai jahan **ghar wahi rehte hain, log wahi rehte hain… bas hamari jagah aur hamare hone ka ehsaas badal jaata hai.**
Aur shayad jinhone ye feeling kabhi mehsoos ki hai, woh bina zyada explanation ke samajh jaayenge ki main kya kehna chahti hoon. ❤️