Hello Friends,

Aaj ek aisi baat share karna chahti hoon jo shayad bahut si married women feel karti hain, lekin openly bol nahi paati.

Shaadi ke baad hum aksar sochte hain ki bas husband ke saath ek nayi life start karni hai. Lekin reality mein shaadi ke saath ek poora family system bhi milta hai.

Saas, sasur, jeth, jethani, devar, devrani… har kisi ka apna nature hai, apni expectations hain, apni thinking hai. Aur hum, ek nayi bahu bankar, dheere-dheere sabko samajhne ki koshish karte rehte hain.

Kisko kya pasand hai.
Kis baat par kaun offend ho jayega.
Kis se kitna bolna hai.
Kis baat ko ignore karna hai.

Aur pata hi nahi chalta ki doosron ko samajhte-samajhte hum **khud ko kitna mentally exhaust kar rahe hain.**

Mujhe lagta hai ghar ke relationships ka sabse difficult part ye nahi hai ki koi kuch keh deta hai.

Difficult part ye hai ki **woh baat humare dimaag se nikalti hi nahi.**

Kisi ne subah kuch keh diya.

Us waqt shayad hum chup reh gaye.

Lekin shaam ko wahi baat phir yaad aati hai.

Phir hum sochte hain—maine kuch galat toh nahi kaha tha? Unhone mujhe hi kyun kaha? Mujhe us waqt jawab dena chahiye tha? Kal unke saamne kaise behave karungi?

Aur kabhi-kabhi toh saamne wala insaan khud apni baat bhool chuka hota hai, lekin hum abhi bhi usi conversation ko apne dimaag mein repeat kar rahe hote hain.

Ye bahut tiring hota hai.

Aur sabse ajeeb baat ye hai ki hum apne hi ghar mein emotionally alert rehne lagte hain.

Kisi ke footsteps se mood samajhna.
Kisi ke face se guess karna ki aaj unka mood kaisa hai.
Kuch bolne se pehle sochna ki iska kya matlab nikala jayega.

Kabhi-kabhi lagta hai jaise hum ghar mein reh nahi rahe, **ghar ke reactions manage kar rahe hain.**

Aur iska effect dheere-dheere humare andar aane lagta hai.

Hum chhoti baaton par irritate hone lagte hain.
Bina wajah upset ho jaate hain.
Akele mein wahi baatein sochte rehte hain.
Kabhi husband se bhi unnecessarily frustration nikal jaati hai.
Aur kabhi bachchon ke saamne bhi hum mentally present nahi reh paate.

Kyuki body ghar mein hoti hai, lekin mind abhi bhi kisi purani conversation mein atka hota hai.

Maine ye bhi realise kiya hai ki har baat ka solution nikalna zaroori nahi hota.

Kuch log aapko kabhi samajh nahi paayenge.

Kuch log aapke efforts ko kabhi notice nahi karenge.

Kuch log aapke baare mein apni ek opinion bana lenge, chahe aap kitna bhi achha kar lo.

Pehle shayad hum har cheez explain karna chahte the. Apni side clear karna chahte the. Sabko khush rakhna chahte the.

Lekin ab lagta hai ki **har relationship ko perfect banana humari responsibility nahi hai.**

Family ko respect karna alag baat hai.

Aur apni mental peace ko sacrifice karte rehna alag.

Hum bahuon se aksar kaha jaata hai ki adjust karo, samjho, ignore karo, ghar basao.

Lekin kabhi-kabhi mujhe lagta hai ki ek baat humein khud se bhi kehni chahiye—

**“Main sabke saath achha rehne ki koshish karungi, lekin har kisi ki baat ko apne dil par nahi loongi.”**

Mujhe lagta hai ye bhi ek tarah ki maturity hai.

Har baat ka jawab dena zaroori nahi.

Har misunderstanding clear karna zaroori nahi.

Har kisi ki approval lena zaroori nahi.

Aur sabse important—**har baar khud ko galat samajhna bhi zaroori nahi.**

Agar aapne kisi ke saath bura nahi kiya, apni taraf se relationship nibhane ki honestly koshish ki hai, toh kabhi-kabhi doosre ki dissatisfaction ko bhi accept karna padega.

Sabko khush rakhna possible nahi hai.

Aur shayad shaadi ke itne saalon baad sabse important lesson yehi hai—

**Ghar sambhalte-sambhalte khud ko mat bhool jaana.**

Aapki feelings bhi important hain.

Aapka peace bhi important hai.

Aapko bhi kabhi-kabhi ghar ke kaam, responsibilities aur relationships se thoda bahar nikal kar sirf apne baare mein sochne ka haq hai.

Kyunki hum women bahut kuch sambhal leti hain.

Bas ek cheez sambhalte-sambhalte aksar reh jaati hai—

**khud ko.**

Aur shayad ab humein woh bhi sambhalna seekhna hai.